There comes a time when you will need to ask yourself this question: Did the church break me, or did I break my own heart by allowing myself to be disrespected, by not setting enough boundaries, and by ignoring glaring red flags. Questions like these will enable us to heal and take accountability for pain that we inflicted on ourselves because of what we tolerated with friends, family, spouses, bosses, and co-workers.

Hurt does not only happen in relationships. It occurs anytime you have to deal with people. One thing I know for sure is, people will always treat you according to the way you unconsciously treat yourself. Never allow someone’s inability to respect, love, or care for you cause you to accept or settle in it. You have the choice to say “this is no longer working for me”. Either they change and align with your standards, or you change and disconnect from the person.

But, just to let you know- NO CHURCH IS PERFECT! Neither is there any perfect person! The church became imperfect the moment you and I stepped in. Stop looking for perfect people in the church! We are all “sin addicts,” and according to Romans 3:23, we have all sinned and fallen short of God’s glorious standard. It is solely by God’s mercy and grace that we are made right in His sight.

The Bible instructs us to worship Him and praise Him. It tells us in Hebrews 10:24-25, that we should look for ways to motivate one another, and that we shouldn’t neglect our meeting together since the day of His return is drawing near. We collectively sing to Him, and we are taught more about God and are given instructions and encouragement, to help us move past our issues from day to day and live a God-centered life. It helps to be around like-minded people who understand you and who share similar struggles and victories. That’s why the church is important.

Hence the reason why I’m pressing my way into the Lord’s house. Not out of ritual or tradition, but because I know that the presence of God is there and that there are people there who are going through the same things I’m going through. There are people there who will pray for me and not “prey on me,” and they are supportive of my efforts to grow in Christ and get to the next level in Him!

But, not everyone who goes to church is saved. Not everyone you see at church is real and sincere. You see, the church is like a hospital, but unfortunately, not everyone there responds to treatment. We do have some fake people among us, and when you talk to God, there’s no doubt He will reveal them to you. When you talk to God, He will plant you in the right church. Maybe you have been badly hurt by the church in the past; I encourage you to take that hurt to God to heal you. I have been hurt in the past, and though it took some time to get over it after praying to God, I was glad God intervened when I needed Him most.

To reiterate the whole point of this post, there is NO PERFECT CHURCH. The church is imperfect because of you and I. But stay encouraged, because we serve a perfect God! So remember this the next time you are tempted to leave a church because a brother in your ministry is rude and disrespectful. If God didn’t tell you to leave, pray for that brother that hurt you.

Remember this the next time you are tempted to leave a church or ridicule your Pastor because you didn’t like something he said in his message. If God didn’t tell you to leave, pray for him. Remember this the next time the worship team plays a little too loudly, or they didn’t play the song that “gets you there.” If God didn’t tell you to leave your church, pray for your music ministers and start worshipping! Remember this the next time you walk into your church building. They aren’t perfect, and neither are you! You will mess up, and so will they. But the unifying factor is that we serve a perfect God who uses imperfect people to accomplish His perfect will!

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