Have you ever been rejected?
I sure have. Rejection sucks, especially when it’s from someone or something that you chose. This could come in all forms. Relationships, getting injured in a sport you really wanted to play, not being good at it, getting picked last in gym class, a diet not working out as planned, getting denied the car or house you really wanted, debit and credit cards declining.
In those situations we make ourselves vulnerable, finally removing some of the precious emotional armor, we worked so hard on. When we are rejected in some form, it hurts. It hurts our egos, our hearts, and makes us doubt ourselves. It turns into negative thinking and sometimes self-talk. We ask ourselves “Why me? What’s wrong with me? Why wasn’t I good enough, why did I have to be the one who got injured, why am I always picked last, I’m so poor” etc. We start questioning our worth, abilities and judgment. No matter how confident we are, we still experience hurt from these situations.
This is where we struggle. We struggle with the “why.” The unknown is a scary place, and humans want to feel desired, and we want to feel like we have worth, make friends, family, and loved ones proud. It feels like we have failed sometimes and nobody wants to feel like a failure. If we don’t have a strong support system, this can be a hard hole to dig out of. There is always a chance we can be blindsided. We have to let go of what it is that we think and understand, and learn not to question our self-worth.
At the end of the day, we will never truly understand the ‘why’ of most situations. Those unknown factors. Why they didn’t choose us. People will make decisions, and no matter how much we question and self-reflect we will never come to a definite answer. But maybe we are not meant to know these things. Perhaps we are meant to take these experiences and use them to help us grow, love ourselves more, and not to question our worth on whether we are chosen or not.
So let’s do our best to let go of the desire to know WHY all the time. Let’s focus our energy on more positive things and accept ourselves and work on becoming more whole. Let’s do our best to let go emotionally and mentally of what we cannot control, and focus on the things we can truly control. Ourselves, our actions, and our choices. Let’s give the ultimate importance to what truly matters- in the end, that is you and accepting yourself for who you are, lovingly and fully, and doing the things that will make YOU happy. You are a part of everything, and everything is a part of You. You are right where you are meant to be. Nothing is lacking. And you cannot be rejected; only redirected. The Divine Plan is unfolding precisely as it should.
While rejection stinks, you should use it to your advantage. Like the wise David Bowie said, “If you feel safe in the area you’re working in, you’re not working in the right area. Always go a little further into the water than you feel that your feet are quite touching the bottom, you’re just about in the right place to do something exciting.” So, take that “No,” and use it to propel your creative powers to the next level!
How you handle rejection, is a direct sign of how successful you’ll be. Sometimes, a door closes on us because the timing or the opportunity isn’t the right fit. Let rejection refine the opportunities that you are looking for. Keep getting rejected until you find your fit. Joseph, Job, Leah and many others were rejected by their friends, families, and even brethren. It doesn’t matter who or what rejected you, let that rejection serve as a motivation to better yourself. Today, receive God’s embrace as He is giving you His shoulder to lean on. “The stone that the builders rejected has now become the cornerstone.” Psalm 118:22 (NLT).
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